tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4617238092352594216.post1983203235749902830..comments2024-03-07T22:03:34.235+01:00Comments on These Dry Bones: Single White (Disgruntled) Maledante stackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13558284324516806633noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4617238092352594216.post-76760579466385643392010-11-06T20:26:52.432+01:002010-11-06T20:26:52.432+01:00Addition: Count them: 1, 2, 3, 4...
Add "Frie...Addition: Count them: 1, 2, 3, 4...<br />Add "Friends with Benefits" to the list. Goodness, gracious, people! <br /><br />In other news, an intriguing word from Job:<br /><br />"I have made a covenant with my eyes...<br />If my heart has been enticed by a woman,<br />Or I have lurked at my neighbor's doorway,<br />May my wife grind for another,<br />And let others kneel down over her."<br />Job 31:1, 9-10<br /><br />Dude, Job was a warrior.dante stackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13558284324516806633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4617238092352594216.post-24798903106596586182010-11-06T14:22:03.279+01:002010-11-06T14:22:03.279+01:00Mr. Fisher,
Thanks for the visit. I had no idea ...Mr. Fisher, <br /><br />Thanks for the visit. I had no idea google did that type of stuff... that's pretty neat.<br /><br />I'll look into those other book recommendations!<br /><br />It's encouraging to know of and see fellow men of the Word stand up and unite against such devastating betrayals of God as lust can be. <br /><br />Also, that translator tool you have for your website is pretty rad... It'll be cool to see how translator technology evolves in the next few years.<br /><br />Again, thanks for the visit and comment, good sir.<br /><br />Peace be the Journey,<br />Dante Stackdante stackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13558284324516806633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4617238092352594216.post-15055820851109530972010-11-06T14:14:18.422+01:002010-11-06T14:14:18.422+01:00Mr. White,
I agree with you that we tend to pinp...Mr. White, <br /><br />I agree with you that we tend to pinpoint and elevate sexual sins over others. From my perspective, I think perhaps one of the main reasons for this is it is a very tangible path to sin. I don't sit alone in my apartment and feel the surge to be proud or envious. Those sins sneak through the back door. <br /><br />Your concluding thoughts causes me to think of the end of the battle at Falkirk in the film Braveheart. If you can recall, there's a moment when Wallace finishes slaying some dude, and then looks back at the battlefied. He's survived, but who else? And one by one he starts nodding and recognizing his fellow surviving warriors. It's a simple moment, but it sticks with me. It's a privilege to get to fight, and to look back at fellow brothers-in-arms running the race. God be with you, Mr. White. <br /><br />Oh, and that "Are you gay?" thing is so friggin' annoying! I've been there, brother... too many times.dante stackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13558284324516806633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4617238092352594216.post-18402067789076890452010-11-06T13:40:49.763+01:002010-11-06T13:40:49.763+01:00Hey Dante,
I caught your blog on my Google Alert ...Hey Dante,<br /><br />I caught your blog on my Google Alert under the term "sexual purity". <br /><br />I think your critique of Every Man's Battle is a valid one. It is directed more for the married. There are many other books on sexual purity that I think are better. <br /><br />*Pure Desire by Ted Roberts is a good one<br />*When Good Men Are Tempted by Bill Perkins<br />*Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction by Mark Laaser (phenomenal)<br /><br />* In the same school of books by Arterburn there is a book called Every Young Man's Battle that is addressed to the single man. <br /><br />I have been struggling with my own sexual purity since Jr. High, but working intensely and deeply on it for the last 3 years. I lost my job and ministry position because of my lust and porn struggles. It was an important wake up call to begin pursuing the health that I needed (sexually, spiritually, emotionally, relationally, and even intellectually).<br /><br />My wife and I run the site www.porntopurity.com. <br /><br />You have a very interesting blog with some different perspectives.<br /><br />Jeff Fisher<br />Raleigh, NCUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15915514076555765650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4617238092352594216.post-3683492955779602092010-11-05T22:05:51.797+01:002010-11-05T22:05:51.797+01:00Less than one hour prior to my beginning to write ...Less than one hour prior to my beginning to write this response I had a brief discourse with a colleague new found friend. We were discussing our plans for this evening and the idea was proposed that I may bring a lady home from a bar. I am not and have never been married and by God's grace alone have not yet crossed that line. I responded in a matter of fact manner that I wouldn't do that. He asked me if I was gay. I explained my beliefs and he responded with incredulity. He stated that it is just illogical to not experience sex before marriage. The crux of his argument was that sexual compatibility is a huge issue that can only be determined through trial and error. Trying to be quick on my feet. I responded with the analogy that American's have a habit of marrying the ones we love rather than loving the ones we marry. I hope that applies to sexual compatibly, but I don’t know.<br />Sexual sin is a great frustration within the church. Nothing is such a clear representation of the hypocrisy we are charged with than this. At the same time I feel it is put on a pedestal and given more control than it should be. Men are often racked with guild for masturbating after months of abstinence. Why does masturbation carry such a stigma in that man's mind that he is dominated by guilt for it, but not for looking at a woman with lust or experiencing extreme pride or hating his brother? I do not wish to downplay lust or sexual immorality, but why does it have such a grip on us? <br />That being said, the idea of pre-marital sex and the sexualization of America (I can’t speak for Slovenia) ruins me. Ironically pride flairs up much more when thinking about it then lust. I catch myself patting myself on the back, “Good job for not having sex” I say to myself. Yet day in and day out I don’t show love to my neighbor without batting an eye. I also struggle with entitlement. I have no "claim" to anything on earth, yet I constantly find myself considering how my future wife should be a virgin if I am a virgin. I have no right to stand on my pedestal and making those demands. I have struggled with lust, pornography, and the like. What makes that different than the woman who made a mistake early in life and repented? Who has been more affected anyway? The woman who has sex with one other partner before marriage or the man who struggles with pornography? Forgive me for this digression.<br />In response to your conclusion I can only offer my support. Stay strong brother. There are others who by the grace of God alone stand at your side on the battlefield of sexual immorality. When you find yourself struggling with envy, look across the scarred landscape, catch the eye of your likeminded brother, give a nod of the head, take courage, and press forward. And we must press on toward relationships and marriage that glorify God alone.A. Whitenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4617238092352594216.post-66546145026101304442010-11-05T22:05:32.223+01:002010-11-05T22:05:32.223+01:00Less than one hour prior to my beginning to write ...Less than one hour prior to my beginning to write this response I had a brief discourse with a colleague new found friend. We were discussing our plans for this evening and the idea was proposed that I may bring a lady home from a bar. I am not and have never been married and by God's grace alone have not yet crossed that line. I responded in a matter of fact manner that I wouldn't do that. He asked me if I was gay. I explained my beliefs and he responded with incredulity. He stated that it is just illogical to not experience sex before marriage. The crux of his argument was that sexual compatibility is a huge issue that can only be determined through trial and error. Trying to be quick on my feet. I responded with the analogy that American's have a habit of marrying the ones we love rather than loving the ones we marry. I hope that applies to sexual compatibly, but I don’t know.<br />Sexual sin is a great frustration within the church. Nothing is such a clear representation of the hypocrisy we are charged with than this. At the same time I feel it is put on a pedestal and given more control than it should be. Men are often racked with guild for masturbating after months of abstinence. Why does masturbation carry such a stigma in that man's mind that he is dominated by guilt for it, but not for looking at a woman with lust or experiencing extreme pride or hating his brother? I do not wish to downplay lust or sexual immorality, but why does it have such a grip on us? <br />That being said, the idea of pre-marital sex and the sexualization of America (I can’t speak for Slovenia) ruins me. Ironically pride flairs up much more when thinking about it then lust. I catch myself patting myself on the back, “Good job for not having sex” I say to myself. Yet day in and day out I don’t show love to my neighbor without batting an eye. I also struggle with entitlement. I have no "claim" to anything on earth, yet I constantly find myself considering how my future wife should be a virgin if I am a virgin. I have no right to stand on my pedestal and making those demands. I have struggled with lust, pornography, and the like. What makes that different than the woman who made a mistake early in life and repented? Who has been more affected anyway? The woman who has sex with one other partner before marriage or the man who struggles with pornography? Forgive me for this digression.<br />In response to your conclusion I can only offer my support. Stay strong brother. There are others who by the grace of God alone stand at your side on the battlefield of sexual immorality. When you find yourself struggling with envy, look across the scarred landscape, catch the eye of your likeminded brother, give a nod of the head, take courage, and press forward. And we must press on toward relationships and marriage that glorify God alone.A. Whitenoreply@blogger.com